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Husband and Wife (Ish & Isha): Spiritual, Religious, or Secular?

Paul states in I Tim 3:15 that he is writing so that we should know how to conduct or bind ourselves in the (or to the ) dwelling of God, the called out ones of the living God, the pillar (support) and steadfast (immovable) truth.

It is with this mindset, I begin the task to provide revelation given to me into the mystery of the spiritual union of man and woman.  I will refer to them in the Hebrew terms, ish (man) and isha (woman).

It is evident in the secular world as well as the ‘religious’ world that the union of a man and a woman in the context of marriage forms a oneness; in the religious realm, it seems to be assumed that if the two partners in marriage claim spirituality then they are entering into a blessing by God of their union. How misguided we are in this ignorant assumption. It is evidenced by the divorce rate in both the secular and religious that there is a lack of wisdom regarding this “sacrament of marriage”.

Two religious partners do not guarantee a spiritual union.

Many times we enter into marriage with good intentions only to find that we are not in agreement or understanding of what those intentions are. Our definitions or understanding of “love” are not defined biblically, and it is assumed sufficient when the years pass and the union is deemed successful by the passing of those years; but, quantity does not equal quality in our spiritual walk or the union of two in marriage. 

So the strength of the union is rated quite shallowly on the appearances of holiness, but lacking the power of the Spirit of Holiness. Often, there is a lack of passion in both partners in their love for the Lord and how that love is to be manifested in the relationship. Women are taught to be receivers only and ride in the wake of the man whose authority they are under.

The evidence is manifested in ‘ministries’ and churches or synagogues where women are seemingly content with staying in the back behind the curtain or serving in areas where religious men are content in the structure where women work and men organize and manage the affairs of the community of God.

In this book, we will explore the validity of the traditional structure of the religious communities of our time and the potential that we are mirroring the philosophy of the world around us and sacrificing the unity of God’s fullest potential in our deception and ignorance. We have accepted the status quo of the religious systems of our time without question and in turn, although perhaps ignorantly, oppressed the greatest manifestation of God’s glory.

This is a journey not unlike many others in history; one that will challenge the norm, ripple the pond of tradition, and perhaps cause emotions to stir to a flame. As a follower of the Messiah of truth, I feel that there can be no compromise when truth is at stake. You, as a reader, may challenge these revelations but even in doing so, truth will resound; and perhaps, in some, that still small voice will be stirred and a hidden treasure revealed that causes them to rejoice in what God originally intended for His Beloved.

Surveying the present and past opinions, literature, and information of biblical scholarship today, from the novice to the scholar, it seems there is a void of information on what the definition of a spiritual man and woman, ish and isha, truly are. To some these terms are foreign; to others, common. There is limited discussion of these roles, in regard to their original etymylogical structure, and modern use in the Hebrew language, but the references are rarely indulged fully beyond a general mention. Portions are mentioned in the Kabbalah, biblical dictionaries, and works on gender roles within the “church” or bible or Torah. The concepts of what the ish and isha represent are expounded upon but limited in their perspective of portraying these vessels by their gender only, respectively. My belief is that the simple literal revelations may be veiling a deeper revelation of something that is foundational to the One who created us in Love, with love and out of love. So we begin with the revelation of the ish/isha and the mystery of this union in the body of Christ as it was in the beginning.

We are to be the proclamation of immovable truth by how we live within the house of God.  The called out ones,”ekklesia”, are the dwelling of God and His truth is the pillar by which we are able to stand steadfast.

We are commanded to live without wrath (coveting) and dissension (debate) but to nurture and cherish those whom we are given the responsibility to nurture.   The word nurturing embraces the picture of nursing a newborn. A newborn is not able to obtain its own food, but it is provided by the one who nurses it. Paul uses this term when referring to how to raise our children in the admonition of the Lord and in the way a husband should behave toward his wife as his own body, not persecuting it, but cherishing (maturing) and nurturing (fostering) its growth. Paul makes the logical assumption that since the man would do this for himself, he would extend the practice of that teaching to the wife he has joined himself to in the same manner.

In an encounter with the Pharisees on divorce, Yeshua states that in the beginning, He who created them made them male and female and that is why the man leaves his mother and father and the two become one flesh. He reiterates they are no longer two, but one flesh, “basar echad”. They are as the Body of Christ, the anointing, a unified being in the flesh, echad (unity)…one heart, one mind, one spirit, one baptism, one forgiveness, one Lord.


The Challenge: Divine Intimacy



LOVE… It seems that mankind’s unending pursuit is to find fragments of love. 

It is written about in the musings of star-crossed lovers, ill-fated for love that will burn its candle too quickly; of temporary one-night stands, or a vengeful broken-heart; songs are composed that define it as “Crazy-Love,” “First Love,” or “Endless Love,” and describe a wide spectrum of substitutions for love that encompass infatuation, passion, obsession, rejection, fascination and gratification.   It does seem that love’s definition is dependent on the experience of the one being asked to define it.  So we continue to publish books, articles and screenplays in attempts to describe it, educated men and women on TV or radio programs discuss it, we make movies trying to explain or exploit it, we distinguish special days of the year trying to force ourselves to share it…but we never truly experience the fullness of what love can be and should be between man and woman. 

Our unending pursuit should not be the rudiments of love but the fullness of love or intimacy.

If the truth be known the majority of women in this world are never truly fulfilled physically or spiritually.  In their ignorance and complacency, they have accepted the measure of mediocrity of love most men can offer them.  They have been convinced that being the object of lust is their role in the world.  In  the servitude of childbearing, cleaning and cooking, they accept the mundane existence of “taking care of their man.”  They have accepted a married life that is less romantic as years go by.  They have accepted lovemaking and sexual union that is measured in minutes instead of hours or days.  And with no one to encourage, edify or perfect them, they perpetuate through the raising of their children, both male and female, the same pathetic love relationship they have been made to accept by the cruel dominance and authority of cultural traditions.  Of course, some women would deny this is the truth for them, they would publicly proclaim that they know and experience the fullness of love from their men, but in the private moments of their consciousness, they know it is true, even for them.  Even more tragic are women who know it is true and yet feel unable to do anything about it in their relationships.

What about man?  If most men would be truthful, they would admit that they believe women are not their equal.  That woman is somehow or in some way inferior to man.  Of course, man has a great need for love but has been persuaded in his thinking that love is fulfilled primarily in the sexual union with woman. But intimate love can never be based on mutual physical gratification. Intimate love between man and woman is first and foremost a spiritual experience. Most men do not have a clue as to what fulfills or satisfies a woman because they have not themselves experienced the full measure and dimension of a true and pure love. Nor do they know how or where to obtain it. You can never give what you have never received. How many times in counseling have I heard women tell me that their men never talk to them in lovemaking or look into their eyes. Such men know little of intimacy.  Men think of love in particular moments of time when they purchase gifts or complete a checklist of chores meant to satisfy the requests of their women.  These men know little of love.  Intimacy requires not particular moments of time but every moment of time. Most men would say that is absurd, but it is essentially their selfish, self-centered attitude trying to justify preserving time for their hobbies, sports or interests which they have no desire to share with their women.  Many men would say they express their love in providing for the material needs of their women, but this is a mistake.  Material substance can never substitute forever for the intimate, romantic and spiritual needs of a woman.  On the other hand, there are men who would fulfill the need for intimate love within a woman, if they could find a woman who would receive it.

So is it hopeless?  Are men and women destined to never experience the fullness of intimate love throughout their lives?  Are we doomed to experience fragmented moments of love through our years together, but viewing only a mere shadow of what is available from our Creator? No.  There is a way.  The Creator has provided a way.  But it does require man and woman to both admit to their own inadequacies and then seek revelation to correct it.  It is possible to perfect love.  It is possible for both men and women to be completely fulfilled in their experience of love.  This book is written to help show the way to the fullness of love.  It is written to help restore Intimacy between man and woman.  Intimacy is what women yearn for, what men desperately need, and the purpose for which God created us all.